Healing in the dark
Healing in the dark by Tamara Ramirez
I laid there in fetal position, crying, screaming, and begging while banging my head on the ledge of a hotel bathtub. The pain and fear were so intense I had to find some way to let it out. We had already been in this season of darkness for four years. Done everything we, and everyone else we knew, could think of. Yet I still found myself alone, in a strange bathroom, naked and screaming at God.
I mean, seriously, hadn’t He promised that if I worked hard, did everything the leading parenting experts of our time advised, and loved Him with my whole heart it would go well for me? Isn’t that the magic formula for a happy life? Look at me? Why did I buy into such a lie?
Two weeks earlier it had happened again. I got a phone call. I was in a staff meeting and recognized the number, so I excused myself and took the call. It was the director of an eating recovery center I had checked my daughter into several hours earlier. Our sweet 17-year-old had been doing so well. She graduated from high school two years early, had a part-time job and was taking classes at a local community college.
I could not have been prouder of how she took on the challenges she faced with OCD. They told me my little girl was rushed to a stand-alone ER nearby because she made another attempt on her life.
it was in the darkness of this season God started healing me. I began seeing darkness as a womb and not my enemy. For the first time, I was able to see that God is not a transactional God. The idea that if I am “good” He will give me good is a lie and was keeping me enslaved.
Are you in a season of darkness? Is God bringing you healing and freedom in this process?
Listen to this song by Trevor Hall You Can’t Rush Your Healing to accompany you in this time of reflection.
Healing in the Dark was originally published in Tamara’s book The Frozen Desert: A Contemplative Lenten Journey. Purchase your copy.